It's good to reassure a frightened young child, but I really didn't want to do so at the cost of becoming a liar. Now I had to set about making what I had told him a reality. The first step was getting on treatment, which was easier said than done because of my horrible fear of needles. But the only other choice was to do nothing at all (all recommended therapies are injectable) and I wasn't going to turn myself into a liar that quickly.

My neurologist and I chose Rebif® (interferon beta-1a) and eventually I got over my fear of needles after a lot of patience on the part of my MS Lifelines® Nurse and wife who encouraged me through that terrifying first, worst shot. I also had to deal with the side effects of course (flu-like symptoms and the occasional injection site reaction in my case), but the recommended strategies worked well for me. After a couple of months, taking my shot and the side effects weren't bothering me much at all. What was bothering me and jeopardizing the truthfulness of my promises was my state of mind. I was wallowing in self pity and not really capable of being there for my son or my wife. Fortunately, time and professional psychologists are great healers.

I think my biggest saving grace through all of this was the fact that a few months before my diagnosis I'd started taking Tae Kwon Do with my son. He'd started a couple of years earlier and was really losing interest. I said I'd join him and keep him company if he stuck with it. Sure, I missed a few classes during the first few months after diagnosis, but generally I stuck with it — I didn't want to be a hypocrite or a liar!

Apart from the wonders of medical science, I largely credit martial arts with my strength, flexibility, coordination, and balance. But most importantly, it'll always be something that my son and I have in common. Imagine my pride last week when he became a Bo Dan (an apprentice black belt). And he was proud of me too — for getting my purple belt. I'm a long way behind him, but that's OK — these days I believe that I have time to get there and we'll get to be together every step of the way.